We still have a white picket fence

The other day I ran into someone and shared the high-level details of Taylor's story. We discussed it for awhile and she was very kind. Then, as we were wrapping up the conversation, she said "so much for the white picket fence, right?" Now David and I know that it is very hard to find the right thing to say and we completely understand when people don't know what to say. And, we really have never been offended by anything anyone has said, because we know that people have kind hearts and only want the best for our family. I didn't acknowledge the comment and let it go, and left the conversation with a smile.

But, I couldn't stop thinking about it in an introspective (not sad) way. I guess some people might have thought we had a "perfect" life before (a la the "white picket fence") and now because Taylor has challenges, our life is no longer perfect. I view it differently. We are as perfect as any family can be, because every family has their challenges. Taylor's challenges are more unique, but Lauren was a rotten sleeper, Jacob had poorly functioning ears that led to numerous ear infections and ear tubes, and David and I have both fought through challenges in the past. This is our most important challenge to be sure, but in no way does it impact the "perfectness" that is our family. I really view Taylor as perfect as my other kids - they're all flawed in their own way, but completely, 100% precious and special. In fact, I think Taylor's challenges will over time give her strength of character and a work ethic that will aid her well in life. And, I think our family will be more compassionate, patient, and open-minded because of our experience.

So, my white picket fence is perfectly intact, thank you very much. And we feel a million times blessed for each of our children. Of course we would never want anyone to worry about saying the right thing - just knowing that our family and friends are there for us means the world to us. And, honestly, we haven't been offended yet - but I wanted to share my perspective on perfection.